Have you heard of ANTs? No, not the tiny (yet wonderfully industrious) insect.
ANTs are Automatic Negative Thoughts, and we all have them. Until you know they exist, you probably wouldn’t even question them. You would instantly believe what they are telling you, because it’s your own thoughts.
Why would they lie? But they do lie!
“I’m no good.”
“He doesn’t really love me.”
“My parents think I’m a failure.”
But they aren’t true, and you don’t have to believe them! Sometimes we get down on ourselves without even realising it, by emotionally responding to ANTs and this results in unproductive or even detrimental behaviours. It can stack up over time and leave you feeling terrible.
Create a thoughts diary. This involves writing down an intrusive, negative thought you have had, and identifying what “species” of ANT it is. (There are all sorts of websites looking at this thought theory). Then you challenge the thought and decide on an action to do the next time you have it. You essentially replace the thought with a better one.
Start slow. Three per day. Steadily escalate. You’ll be thinking more positively in no time.